For some, the holiday season and Christmas are not a time of joy and cheer
but of depression, loneliness, anxiety and self-evaluation. The added stresses,
unrealistic expectations and fatigue of the season can all contribute to holiday
depression.
Financial constraints, not being able to spend time with family or
conversely, spending too much time with family can also contribute to Christmas
depression and holiday depression. People with few friends or family members may
feel even more alone and isolated. People with a large circle of family and
friends may feel stressed by having to cook and entertain for large family
get-togethers.
- Consider some circumstances that can contribute to a feeling of depression;
- The activities of the holidays can place a significant burden on already
full schedules.
- The costs involved with the holidays can place a significant burden on
already tight budgets.
- Separation or divorce can leave people celebrating Christmas and the
holiday season alone.
- People who have lost a loved one are especially mindful of that loss.
Compounding the problem of depression around Christmas and the holiday season
is the fewer number of daylight hours that occur from Thanksgiving and past
Christmas. So, in addition to holiday depression, Seasonal Affective Disorder
(SAD) can also play a role in depression during the holiday season.
People can also experience a post-holiday let down after Christmas, when the
brightness and togetherness of the season make way to cabin fever confinement
and a return to the "same old, same old."
Although there are many easily identifiable causes for holiday depression,
there are also some people who cannot pinpoint the exact cause of their
Christmas depression. They know they are "supposed to" feel happy during the
holiday season but instead of feeling happy, the flat, lackluster cloud of
depression hangs over them.
Regardless of the cause of depression during Christmas and the holiday
season, sufferers of depression during the holiday season might experience
excess fatigue, a change in sleeping patterns, irritability and feelings of
sadness. People who do not display the outward symptoms of depression during
Christmas and the holiday season might develop other stress responses like over
eating or excessive drinking.
Although the stressors that can cause holiday depression cannot be completely
eliminated, there are a number of suggestions that can help keep Christmas and
holiday depression at a minimum.
- Set reasonable financial goals based on what the budget can afford.
- Set reasonable time goals while employing time management techniques like
Christmas shopping during the off-peak season and shopping online or by mail
order. Unique, thoughtful and handmade gifts often
bring much more pleasure than a
gift bought out of obligation.
- Schedule obligations and parties wisely. If trying to cram another
obligation into the already over filed schedule causes stress, cancel and spend
the evening taking a bubble bath or curled up with a good book.
- Recognize the sadness of absent loved ones instead of denying the sadness.
- Be especially mindful of diet during the holiday season. High sugar and
carbohydrate laden foods typical of the holidays will only make depression
matters worse. Allow indulgences during the holidays, but with limitations.
- Put old issues aside when dealing with family. If that is not possible,
consider limiting the time spent.
- Remember that Christmas depression is not permanent. Moods typically
improve once the holidays are over and once the worst of winter is over.